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Healing Quotes: Looking Fear in the Face

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

We are often afraid of what the future might hold. At least I am. Today, I don’t feel like taking the leap and preparing for living with my husband at all. I’d rather choose stability, even though ultimately, standing still means going backwards in life.

When I look back at my life, I often tend to look at my life experiences with a level of sadness or anger. How much more will life hand me, if I’ve already been through this?

Another way of looking at it is, I’ve been through it and survived. This means I am strong. If I’ve been able to handle what I have, why won’t I be able to handle the next hurdle in life?

Another thing is, of course, that uncertainty is scary, but without taking risks, we won’t go forward, and without going forward, we slide backward. I believe I read it in this book I mentioned of poems by a rape survivor, but not sure. Wherever I read it, I read that there are generally two kinds of people in life: those who warn you about all the risks of following your dreams, and those who encourage you to take the chances that following your dreams will present you with.

I have generally been trying to stay on the safe side, not taking risks but thereby not taking chances either. A few of the chances and risks I took, have not turned out well. For example, I went to university in 2007 and fell flat on my face. Then again, does that mean that taking chances and risks is altogether bad?

I took the chance and the risk of transferring from the city institution to my current small town institution. It hasn’t been an altogether good choice, but opportunities have arosen from my taking this chance/risk too. For example, day activities are generally better here than in the city institution.

I tend to choose stability over opportunity, but maybe that needs to change a bit. I’ve gone through a lot already and survived, so doesn’t this indicate that I am strong enough to handle the future?

Five Inspirational Books That I Love

This week, one of Mama’s Losin’ It’s writing prompts is “book review”. Also, a few days ago, the Blog Everyday in May prompt was “five books I love”. I don’t participate in Blog Eveyrday in May, since I only discovered it yesterday, but I love to find writing prompts. Therefore, I thought I’d combine the two and list five books I love. As it turns out, all are inspirational books.

1. Preemie Voices by Saroj Saigal (2014). This book is a collection of letters from former preemies, born between 1977 and 1982, that describe their lives now and give hope to parents of today’s premature babies and children. Many years ago, I believe Bill Silverman wrote a book of stories from former preemies titled Small Victories. I could unfortunately not get my hands on this book and am so glad I got my hands on Preemie Voices. It is so validating to know that I’m not alone on this preemie journey, even though it’s a bit annoying that the target audience is parents of today’s preemies.

2. Miracle Survivors by Tami Boehmer (2014). This is Boehmer’s second book of stories from long-term survivors who were said to have incurable cancer. I didn’t read her other book, but I think I’m going to. In Miracle Survivors Boehmer starts by listing characteristics she’s found long-term survivors of thought-to-be-incurable cancer have in common. Each contributor then tells his or her story and ends it with life lessons they’ve learned through their journey with or their overcoming of cancer. Though some people use alternative medicine and claim to have been cured by it, this is not prominently promoted. Above all, the survivors promote being on top of your own care and advocating for yourself. I feel this is an importnat message even to those who are in the healthcare system for other reasons.

3. Angels at Our Table, 2nd edition by Ann Breen (2012). This is a book of stories from parents of children (and some adults) with Williams Syndrome. People with Williams Syndrome usually have an intellectual disability and may have many health problems, but they also commonly have a very sociable personality and cute facial features. Though many families struggled with getting their children properly diagnosed and treated, particularly back when Ann Breen’s daughter was young in the 1980s, the message in the book is one of appreciation. The importance of support is also highlighted, as Ann Breen founded the Williams Syndrome Association of Ireland. I for one happen to actually like inspirational books about people wiht disabilities, so this one is a good one for me.

4. Real Families, Real Stories by Stephanie Sumulong (2014). This is a book of stories from family members of children (and again some adults) with Down Syndrome. The stories are very short, which is a bit disappointing, because i don’t get to get a deeper understanding of these families’ lives. The intention of the book is to celebrate people with Down Syndrome. For this reason, it is also sad that no adults with Down Syndrome were interviewed. However, the stories do cover many aspects of families’ lives with Down Syndrome, including prenatal diagnosis, adoption, the heart defects that commonly occur in Down Syndrome, and sibling perspectives.

5. Chicken Soup for the Soul: Recovering from Traumatic Brain Injuries by Amy Newmark, Carolyn Roy-Bornstein and Lee Woodruff (2014). I have not yet finished this book, but so far, it seems wonderful. Having myself acquired possible brain damage shortly after birth, I find the stories of brain injury survivors somewhat relatable, though of course I did not have a life prior to brain damage. A few months ago, I read a Dutch book of stories from people who had invisible disabilities due to brain injury and I loved it. Being Chicken Soup for the Soul, the stories of course have been selected for being inspirational, but so far, it looks like many aspects of life with TBI are covered.

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