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Grateful: Three Things I’m Grateful For Right Now #AtoZChallenge

Welcome to day 7 in the #AoZChallenge. For my letter G post, I once again chose a prompt from the 397 journal writing prompts and ideas. This prompt is “Grateful”. Today, I am listing some things I am grateful for right now.

1. Sunny weather. Today marked the first warm day of the year with the temperature rising to about 21 degrees Celsius. I love the sunshine, even though I don’t usually go outside on my own. That being said, my husband put an enclosure in my room in which I can put our cat Barry for a while should I want to sit in the garden. Barry in fact loves his enclosure and lies in it a lot even though I haven’t yet put him in there.

Today, my husband and I drove to Kleve across the German border to go for a walk and eat some croissants. My husband used to live there for a year about eight or nine years ago. It was interesting to see how much the city had changed.

2. Nice food. I ate some lovely food today. Croissants are one of my favorite types of bread. Once we got home, my husband microwaved a bapao for me. By this time, it was already almost 6PM, so we decided not to have a full dinner. Instead, we drove to the supermarket and bought a salad. Mine was Mexican chicken and it was great.

3. My mood improving. I’m telling myself it cannot yet be the increase in my antidepressant dose, but my mood is definitely better than it used to be. It helps that I have something to commit to, ie. the #AtoZChallenge. However, with my depressed mood of the past few months, I wouldn’t have been able to stay committed. It’s not easy now either, but it’s doable.

Other than the fact that I’m more active, I’m also generally more positive. My irritability is still the same, but I’m having a more upbeat outlook on life. For example, two weeks ago I was pretty sure I couldn’t cope with independent living at all. Now I am looking at the prospect of possibly moving out of area, which might get me less care, with a relatively positive attitude.

What are you grateful for right now?

Food Plan: A Week of Healthy Eating

It’s been six months since I embarked on my weight loss and healthier living journey. It’s been going with ups and downs. I lost five kilograms in my first month of attempting to lose weight. Then, I slowly lost more then gained it back. At the end of October, I was at the same weight I’d been at in early July. IN other words, while I had maintained the loss of those first five kilograms, I hadn’t lost any more. Now over the month of November, I lost three kilograms again. I now only need to lose two kilograms to no longer be obese. This means that the goal I set last June, which was to be just plain overweight rather than obese within a year, is still within reach.

One exercise I came across when reading journaling guides for overeaters, is to imagine one day of normal eating. The idea is to imagine what it’d be like to eat normally for a day, then put that plan into actual action. The thing is, even when I was still deep in disordered eating, I usually had a few days of mostly normal eating before I’d down a whole bag of sweets and/or a bag of crisps and/or other unhealthy foods wthin half an hour. For this reason, I’m going to change the exercise a little and create a food plan for a week. Most things I have already implemented, in fact.

Breakfast

I will eat a healthy breakfast each day. This means I’ll eat lower-fat yoghurt with muesli. I used to eat crunchy muesli most days, but I changed that to regular fruit muesli about a month ago. This contains significantly less calories than crunchy muesli, but it does seem to contan somewhat more sugar. Last week, I bought muesli with nuts, which I think I’ll like better than fruit muesli anyway and which is less sugary.

Lunch

I used to eat two slices of bread with peanut butter. Last month, I decided to get sandwich spread instead, which is much lower in calories, although some people tell me it’s not necessarily healthier.

In addition to bread, I started eating a few carrots, tomatoes and cucumber slices for lunch each day. I love to snack on vegetables and particularly the carrots make me feel full too.

Dinner

My husband cooks and serves my food, so I generally trust him to make me relatively healthy meals and limit my portions. Each Friday though, he gets us fries with a snack. When I restarted my weight loss journey a month ago, I thought I’d have to let go of this, but I don’t. Weight loss doesn’t mean never eating any unhealthy food, after all. That’s why I’m pretty wary of Overeaters Anonymous’ idea of abstinence as a goal. I much prefer Eating Disorders Anonymous’ idea of balance.

Snacks

I can have fruit or rice crackers as snacks when I’m home from day activities in the afternoon. During morning coffee at day activities, I should try to turn down the gingerbread, as it’s pretty high in calories and I don’t even like it very much.

On Wednesday, we have a cooking activity at day activities. I love it and am so glad I have been able to fully participate in it, including eating, while still losing weihgt. The staff usually serve it, so they decide on portion sizes.

Every other Friday, my mother-in-law accompanies me to the pharmacy to pick up my medications. I have decided that I can still buy myself something to snack on at the grocery store that’s near the pharmacy, but it needs to be something relatively healthy. For example, the last time, I had chicken bites. Then, I ate them all in one sitting, which I’m not planing on doing tomorrow. I’m still undecided as to whether I can get myself the chicken bites again and hope I’ll restrain myself and leave some for my husband, or whether I should get something else. Here, the goals of abstinence versus balance are competing again.

Drinks

I usually have coffee, tea and water throughout the day. I can have a fizzy drink or juice every once in a while. I should aim for at least two liters of fluids each day. Not even so much for weight loss purposes, but more to prevent getting constipated.

Finally Starting My Weight Loss Journey

On the Sunday before yesterday, I finally stepped onto the scale for the first time since leaving the institution. I had resolved for months that I’d be losing weight once home. Though I had done an okay job of not overeating, I made up for this by regular evening snacking.

I was rather scared as I went onto the scale. In the institution, I had felt nervous, but I didn’t feel like I had to compare myself to the nurses who were weighing me. My husband is at a healthy weight yet still wants to lose a little, while I am obese. I was very scared that my husband would judge me. I hoped I had lost weight, but I had not been on this particular scale in months. As it turned out, I had unfortunately gained quite a bit of weight. I was at my highest weight ever. Being shocked that I weighed nearly 80kg (176lbs), while I am only 1.53m (5ft) tall, I decided to finally lose weight. I use a journaling workbook by Mari L. McCarthy to guide me through the first month. Today’s post is an adaptation of the first jornaling exercise. It asks me to freewrite for ten minutes. I need more time to write out my thoughts on the start of my weight loss journey.

I started a food journal last Thursday. It was hard, because I really had no clue how to know whether I was consuming too many calories. Not that I meant to be too judgmental of myself. I had kept a food journal once before when I was around fourteen and all it did was depress me. Now at that time I just went on overeating like I’d done before and judged myself without actually using my findings as a starting point for change.

On Saturday, my husband showed me a site where you can see how many calories are in each product. I still don’t plan on keeping full track of my calorie intake, but it does help me become aware of which foods are healthy and which are not. For example, people believe that dried fruit is healthy, but for weight loss it definitely is not. I happened to know this one, but a few other calorie facts are surprising to me. For example, I sincierely believed gingerbread is healthy until I found out that a large slice of gingerbread contains about 150 calories. Now I know why at day activities, we can only have it once a week.

When I went onto the scale again on Saturday, I had lost 2kg. It’s probably more because I had been a bit bloated the week before, but it still gives me hope. I originally resolved to lose 10kg in a year, which would put me in the overweight rather than obese range. I hope that over the next month, I can keep these 2kg off at least and maybe even lose some more. I need to lose about a kilogram a month to reach my goal.

Besides making sure I eat less and healthier, I decided to go get my butt off the chair. On the day I started my journey, I resolved to walk for 36 minutes, which would burn the amount of calories I’d have to consume less each day to reach my goal. After 20 minutes, my right foot hurt so badly that I had to slowly walk back home. I do better on the elliptical. Last Saturday, I managed 25 minutes on it. We also went swimming a few times last week, which I love.

I really hope that this journey is going to be a mostly positive experience. There will be hard times, as I’ll no doubt be tempted to overeat again. I hope I will overcome these without giving in or giving up.

Mummy Times Two

Christmas Tag

Tags are a big thing on Dutch blogs, but I rarely see them on English-language blogs. I love them. Yesterday, finally, I found an English-language Christmas tag. I alreaddy filled a Dutch one in on my Dutch blog. It’s already 11PM on Christmas day, so I am rather late to the party, but I’d still love to fill this one out.

What’s your favourite Christmas movie?
Honestly, Home Alone is the only one I know and I haven’t even seen it in full. Back when I was a child, my parents and sister used to watch musicals on TV particularly on what in the UK is called boxing day and is called second Christmas day in the Netherlands. I particularly remember one called My Fair Lady, but didn’t like it.

Have you ever had a white Christmas?
I don’t remember. Googled it and the last white Christmas we had here in the Netherlands was in 2010, so yes.

How do you usually spend the holidays?
With my parents or in-laws usually.

What’s your favorite Christmas song?
It’s Gonna Be a Cold, Cold Christmas by Dana. I don’t mind most Christmas songs, although there isn’t any I really like. However, I don’t understand how people’s favorite can be Mariah Carey’s All I Want for Christams Is You.

Do you open any presents on Christmas Eve?
No. We don’t give each other Christmas presents. This used to be because in the Netherlands, St. Nicholas on December 5 is a bigger hliday (although it’s losing ground). Now in my family we don’t celebrate this anymore either.

Can you name all of Santa’s reindeer?
No, I’m clueless about those.

What holiday traditions are you looking forward to this year?
I didn’t look forward to much and we don’t realy have traditions.

Is your tree real or fake?
We don’t have a tree at home, because our cat would climb it. On the ward, we have four fake trees.

What’s your ultimate Christmas treat/food/sweet?
I love most, but my all-time favorite is a type of cookie called cinnamon stars. I haven’t had them in years though.

Be honest! do you prefer giving or receiving presents?
Receiving. I find giving presents stressful, particularly thinking of what others might like.

What’s the best present you’ve ever received at Christmas?
Like I said, we don’t give out Christmas gifts. Besides, I have no idea what the best present I ever received was.

What would be your dream place to visit for the holiday season?
Allow me to stay home please. I don’t enjoy the lights or snow anyway.

Are you a pro present wrapper or do you fail miserably?
I don’t even try.

Most memorable Christmas moment?
I don’t know. I’d say last year’s Christmas gourmet with my in-laws, because that’s the first that comes to mind.

What made you realize the truth about Santa?
This is about St. Nick again. My father had recorded a tape one year in which Black Peter, Santa Clause’s helper, pretended to be stuck in the chimney. (Here, the traditional storyline goes that St. Nick and his Peters ride the rooftops and throw presents down the chimney.) When I had sort of realized the truth, Dad showed me the tape.

What makes the holidays special for you?
The food and nothing else. I hate the forced niceness and togetherness. I also don’t particularly like the decorations.

Hope you all had/have a nice Christmas and boxing day.

Upbeat #WotW

Another more than a week has gone by. This week was pretty intense. I have been in a relatively good mood most of the time. Also, I made some good progress within the last few days. For this week, I am participating in Word of the Week again and my word is “upbeat”.

Monday started out not too great. I had a conflict with one of my activity staff. In the morning, I had been busy with quite a difficult soap making project and had asked for help a little too many times. My activity staff had, or so she said, been attending to me constantly. She didn’t say so till the end of the morning and said that I couldn’t make soap in the afternoon, because she’d be the only staff in attendance. I was pissed and had an anger outburst. After I calmed down a bit the nurses asked what was up. I told them and a nurse accompanied me to the activity room after lunch to talk to the activity staff. Both of us had been overreacting a bit it turned out and she had been offering help sometmes when it wasn’t needed. In the afternoon, I made an easier-to-make soap and did it mostly independently. On Tuesday and Wednesday I also made soap and had a lot of fun doing so.

On Thursday, I would be leaving for home in the afternoon. I had gotten a letter from the local social consultation team and had handed it to my social worker. I had some trouble scheduling an appointment with her, but eventually, we worked something out. Turned out the letter wasn’t anything we needed to do anything about.

Early in the afternoon, I got a call from my independent consumer advocate telling me that he had made an appointment for me to go take a look at a day activity place next Tuesday. The place had been mentioned during the kitchen table talk with the social consultant and independent consumer advocate, but I had apparently erroneously thought that my town didn’t have a contract with this organization. I will visit the place on Tuesday at 11AM. Depending on how I like that place, we may take a look at another place that’s part of the same organization later on.

The consumer advocate also told me that the social consultant would be calling me about an appointment with the mental health agency for home support services. She called me while I was in the cab on my way home. I will have a meeting with the mental health agency’s home support person on Wednesday at 9AM. My consumer advocate will also be attending that meeting with me. If this and the day activity thing go well, the social consultant is hoping to proceed with getting things arranged that same week, because she will be on maternity leave after that. For those who don’t know, a social consultant is a local civil service person who makes decisions about funding for community care. Because I am now institutionalized and will be going home, a new decision regardng funding will need to be made. Of course, I don’t expect things to move that fast and the social consultant can of course hand over my case to a colleague. Ttill I’m hoping they’ll reach a decision about funding for home care and day activities within a few weeks. That will make it much easier for me to prepare for actual discharge out of the institution.

I went home Thursday evening. On Friday, my husband had to be at work by 6AM, so the alarm clock went off at 4:20. I slept some more but, once my husband was off to work, I could hardly sleep any longer. I had somewhat of a difficult morning, but practising mindfulness helped me get through it. I was upbeat in the afternoon, when a Facebook friend who also makes soap came by. I had met her specifically through soap making, but we also had some fun chatting. We made a lip balm, sugar scrub and goat’s milk melt and pour soap with honey.

Today, I’m tired but still upbeat. The nurses made us fresh macaroni. That’s one of my ward’s summer traditions. I must honestly say my husban’ds macaroni is better, but then again this macaroni is much, much better than the lame excuse for food we get everyday.

Like I said, except for Monday, I’ve been feelign mostly upbeat this week. I am still loving my soaping craft and an looking forward to the progress we’ll make next week.

The Reading Residence

Top Ten Plans for This Summer

It’s (almost) summertime. The weather has been quite good here lately. Particularly last week, the weather was lovely. This week, it’s getting slightly cooler and we’ve had some rain. However, the weather is still good enough to be outside in a T-shirt without a jacket. That’s one thing I love about spring and summer.

One of Mama’s Losin’ It’s prompts for this week is to share your top ten summer plans. I am really looking forward to this summer and I’d love to share my plans with you. Many are the same as last year’s, but unlike then, I did already make some of my plans happen.


  1. Go swimming. This is one of the items on last year’s bucke tlist that I couldn’t cross off then. This year, I’m participatng in a four-day swimming event this very week. I’m swimming only 100 meters each day, which is the shortest distance you could do. So far, I’ve completed two days of the event, that is really five days, already. You only need to complete four out of five days for the medal, but I plan on swimming each day.

  2. Have a barbecue. This is on last year’s list too. I didn’t think that I’d make this year’s barbecue on the institution unit, but now I think I will. It hasn’t been planned yet, but I heard the head nurse say she was going to get the DJ we have each year booked again.

  3. Sit in the garden. My home garden this time. I didn’t know last year of course that this year I’d have a real garden at home. The unit garden is also going to get remodeled soon.

  4. Eat strawberries, blackberries, blackcurrants, etc. I got raspberries from the market last week, but we don’t have them in the garden. The shrub my husband bought died before we could plant it. We do have many other berries, however. I don’t know how well they’ll do their first year, but I already ate a strawberry out of our garden last week.
  5. Go for walks. I walked form our old apartment to the institution a few times last year. This year, our walks have been in the tiny village. I hope to go to the woods sometime this summer too.

  6. Spend time with family. I’ve got to have an item on the list that I didn’t have last year. My sister and my parents are both coming over to our home next week (if my sister can get the day off) to celebrate my birthday.

  7. Eat the head nurse’s French fries and/or macaroni. There’s a nurse who lives in Turkey most of the year who comes over to work at our unit for the summers. It’s a tradition that she and the head nurse make macaroni from scratch once each year. It doesn’t sound that special, I know, but for people who normally get microwave meals everyday, it is. I’ve also heard the head nurse has plans for making us French fries on a Sunday in July. She makes fries about once a month, but usually on Saturdays, when I’m home.

  8. Wear my new dress. I already wore a skirt several times this year. I also bought two new dresses, one of which I already wore. I want to wear the other one too.

  9. Do lots of reading. This was one of the things I didn’t do enough of last year, even though I could. This year, it’s even easier, since I finally got a full Bookshare membership. I plan on reading a few books that I’ve wanted to read forever but never got down to buying as eBooks. Not that I couldn’t have bought them as eBooks, but I was planning on getting a Bookshare membership all along and so delayed getting the books. Reading books in DAISY format is still easier than reading eBooks. Of course, getting them from Bookshare, which is like a library for print disabled people, is cheaper too. I will review the books that I read here too.

  10. Write. I haven’t been blogging here as much as I’d like to this month or last month. After all, I’ve been feeling pretty uninspired. I hope to be inspired soon.


What are your plans for this summer?

Mama’s Losin’ It

Happy List – May 30 to June 5, 2016

I’ve been feeling extremely unmotivated to blog lately. It’s not that I don’t want to, or that there aren’t enough prompts or other ideas to get me started. I just can’t get my fingers moving and actually type that post. I don’t know whether it’s for that reason or in spite of it, but I’ve wanted to restart my Dutch website, blog or both. Of course, I’m uninpsired on that side of the language fence too. Just to get myself back into the swing of things, I’ll just write a list of things I’m happy about this week.



  • I’ve been doing okay in the exercise department. The physical therapist came to my unit on Monday to do exercise with me and I worked out some with the resistance band. On Tuesday, I went to the institution gym and did well there. I’ve also been lifting weights and working out more with the resistance band in my room. Yesterday, I went on the elliptical at home.

  • On a somewhat related note, the physical therapist measured the strength in my hands, believing my left hand would be weaker. Turned out they’re both equally strong (or weak). I didn’t ask whether my strength is much worse than normal people’s. It probably is, but for now, let’s forget that and focus on the fact that my left hand isn’t weaker than the right one.


  • On Wednesday, two student nurses from the locked ward went to the market and there was still room in their car. Since one guy ended up not wanting to go and another woman had just lost her privileges, I was the only one going. We bought fruit for my unit and the locked unit and I got some fish.

  • On Friday, my husband and I went out to buy fries and snacks. Yesterday, my husband made us tortillas. Both times, the food was great.

  • Yesterday, my husband and I went clothes shopping for me. We didn’t find what we’d hoped for, but we did find some great dresses.

  • The weather is good. We were supposed t get thunderstorms all week, but in the institution town we only got one on Tuesday. My husband did get worse thuderstorms. Over the week-end, however, we had beautiful weather at home.

  • Our cat Barry celebrated his third birthday today. My in-laws came and brought an apple pie. Barry himself got some of his favorite food.


What are you happy about this week?

Ten Reasons I Love Spring

Spring is the second best season after summer if you ask me. Summer is better among other reasons because it’s my birthday season. Today, however, I’ll be sharing the reasons why I love spring.

1. The weather. When I was on the locked unit in the city hospital, my unit was close to a park. The beginning of spring was marked by the weather being dry and warm enough that I could lie on the grass in the park. This happened in the middle of March the year I was on that unit. My ideal weather however is dry, sunny with some clouds and a daytime temperature of above 20°C. We don’t usually reach that temperature until the middle of April.

2. Being able to wear skirts and short sleeves. I used to have rules about what weather dictated which clothees, because otherwise I’d be walking in a T-shirt when it’s freezing and wear a hoodie and jacket when it’s 30°C. I have a hard time telling when it’s too hot or too cold, after all. I still use my rules at times, although I forget to check the weather forecast a lot. When it’s above 20°C, I can usually wear skirts and short-sleeved shirts. My pants are all black or denim, but my skirts are in brighter colors. I love wearing them and love wearing my sandals too.

3. Being able to sit in the garden. This is the first spring that my husband and I have a garden. Although I don’t like sun-bathing or otherwise doing nothing while in the garden, I love to spend time in the garden when I have something to do. We don’t have a flowery garden and the fruits and berries won’t be there till summer. Next year summer that is, because my husband says he’ll have to remove half the berries and fruits from the trees once they first appear to prevent the trees from falling over.

4. Daylight. I don’t like the sun shining right through the window of my study at home, but otherwise I love the fact that it’s light outside longer.

5. Going for walks. This is not a specific spring activity, but it’s a lot more fun in the spring. The weather is usually ideal and the air is fresh. I love, love, love going for walks and it’s harder to motivate people to take me on walks during other seasons – or to be motivated myself.

6. Birds. These days, I usually wake up at 6AM. I don’t usually wake up because of the chirping of birds – another patient’s alarm clock wakes me. Still, I do often hear the chirping of birds through my window. I also often still hear them when I go to bed at just before 10PM.

7. Holidays. We’ve got Easter, King’s Day on April 27, the feast of the ascension and liberation day, which of course aren’t always on the same day like this year. After all, liberation day is always on May 5, but the date of the ascension depends on when Easter is that year. Lastly, there’s of course Pentecost, which is coming up this week-end. I am not big on Christian holidays, but I love the extra days off and I do like the good vibes shining off my Bible reading around those days.

8. Birthdays. Not my own like I said, but my mother and sister have their birthdays in the spring. I love visiting my parents usually between my mother’s and sister’s birthday to celebrate both.

9. Seasonal foods. I am not a big fan of typical winter foods like kale with smoked sausage or suerkraut. The beginning of spring means a new menu with more seasonal foods in the institution. Also, of course, at the end of spring there’s a huge variety of seasonal produce at the stores.

10. Renewed energy. I am usually more energized physically during the spring and summer than during the fall and winter. Also, the spring often brings renewed mental energy and motivation. Lastly, I’m often n a better mood during springtime.

What is your favorite season? And what do you love most about spring?

Mama’s Losin’ It

You Baby Me Mummy

F – #AtoZChallenge on Mental Health

Welcome to my letter F poost in the #AtoZChallenge on mental health. I hope you are enjoying and learning from the challenge so far. For this post, I have a few new words for you.

Food

No, I don’t mean to discuss how mental illness impacts one’s relationship with food, though it can often change ot “It’s complicated”. I want to discuss institution food. Yes, it is as bad as you thought it’d be. We used to be able to pick something that wasn’t too bad off the menu, but now that we get the food in bulk, the nurses decide what everyone will eat. It’s so bad that if you’re a vegetarian new to the unit, you may need to wait a week or two before you get your veggie burger. I don’t know whether the same is true if you have a food intolerance.

Force

I’ve discussed words that relate to this one, such as control and dependence. Force can only be used on people who are invooluntarily committed to the hospital or in emergency situations. For example, if someone is attacking a nurse, they don’t need to wait to get the patient sectioned before using solitary confinement or rapid tranquilization. Though force cannot be used unless a patient has been involuntarily committed or there’s an emergency, coercion can be used pretty much whenever the staff see fit. In 2008, when I was on the locked unit, I was threatened with a section or forced discharge if I didn’t consent to solitary confinement.

Forensic Unit

Until the early 1990s, the only forensic psychiatric units that existed in the Netherladns were either state hospitals or specific prison units. A person can’t be sent to a state hospital on a forensic section unless they’ve committed a violent or sexual crime. In fact, until a few years ago, people who had merely threatened violence could only be sent to a state hospital for four years at most.

Now, many regular mental institutions have forensic units. These are used as a step down from a state hospital for people who are ready for resocialization or for people convicted of less serious crimes. Forensic psychiatric units also serve people who are at risk of coming into contact with the criminal justice system.

Making Myself Try New Foods

One of the January prompts from The SITS Girls is about getting your kids to try new foods. Now I for one don’t have kids and don’t have to make anyone try new foods, except for myself. You see, as much as I overeat, I am still a very picky eater.

I am oversensitive in many ways, but taste is an exception. I can’t stand bland foods and can handle much more hot and spicey food than most people I know. I also crave foods with some bite to them. The Dutch are known for their mashed foods. I can’t stand those.

In the institution, we commonly get quite bland foods. Even Asian foods are hardly spiced up and we get mashed potatoes at east three times a week. As a result, I don’t eat my dinner almost half the time. That is, occasionally I try to make myself eat some mash, and I usually do eat the vegetables even if they’re too overcooked for my taste.

I do try new foods every now and again though. I mean, as a child I hated spicey food and when I first learned to cook, I often overcooked my vegetables. A few weeks ago, when my husband and I were eating out, he had me try a bit from his smoked sausage. I actually liked it, though I had tried some of the institution’s smoked sausage a few weeks prior and couldn’t make myself like it at all.

I also used to be, and probably still am extremely picky wen it comes to my likes or dislikes for certain brands of food. I remember when I was about five ad in the hospital, my parents brought their supermarket’s brand of peanut butter because I wouldn’t eat the premium brand. I have now grown to like this brand of peanut butter and put it on my bread a few times a week.

When my husband cooks something unfamiliar to me, I always make myself try it. This sometiems leads to awkward situations when my husband believes he’s cooked something I’d love, and I turn out to dislike it. I am not one to be able to pretend I like a food that I really don’t. For example, though I loved the rest of my husband’s Christmas dinner last year, it was probably obvious I didn’t like the potato gratin. This was actually disappointing to me, because I had expected to like it.

I usually end up making the final dinner decision when my husband and I are together. This may change when we go live together. After all, we can’t eat pasta or noodles all week (althugh I wouldn’t mind) and pizza, fries or pancakes aren’t very healthy. I guess I’ll need to make myself eat mash. Then again, I don’t want to disappoint my husband by showing my dislike for it.