I have not written a diary-style entry in a while, even though I hoped it’d help me write more often. The past few weeks have been rather eventful with things needing to be worked out for my day activities. Not that anything concrete has come out of it yet, but today, I am hopeful that something will.
In early February, we had a “big meeting” to discuss how to proceed now that my day activities hours were cut and I would maybe have to leave this day center. It was decided that we’d involve the Center for Consultation and Expertise (CCE) to help us detail my support needs. In the meantime, my home support hours were doubled as to give my support coordinator some time to help me find a new place.
My CPN took it upon herself to call the CCE. I don’t know how the conversation between her and the CCE person went, but they concluded eventually that my problem was mainly my blindness. I didn’t understand why, since I’d been almost kicked out of day activities for self-injurious behaviors and meltdowns – not your average blind person’s everyday behavior. The whole thing frustrated me to no end, as blindness agencies have consistently said that my main problem is definitely not my blindness and now the CCE was referring me back to them.
When I read my CPN’s notes on the meeting in which she told me about her conversation with the CCE, I got an idea where the misunderstanding had come from. She wrote about my anxiey regarding demands in light of my having to learn new skills. I figured she’d told the CCE person about the recommendation that I get independent living skills training, which is not the CCE’s department. They offer consultations in situations where the client falls through the cracks because of severe problem behavior, after all. Resistance to demands does not necessarily present with severe problem behavior, I suppose.
When I asked my CPN for clarification though last week, I found out that she doesn’t even believe I have severe problem behaviors. I’m not 100% sure either that my behaviors are severe enough for the CCE, but my CPN’s reasoning for dismissing my problem behaviors altogether was rather strange: I wouldn’t be able to be married if I had problem behaviors. She also mentioned that I wouldn’t be able to live independently in that case either, which I understand. Then again, with today’s budget cuts to mental health and long-term care, once living in the community, you’d need to be virtually dead to be admitted back to an institution. Maybe a virtually dead person is the kind of case the CCE usually works on too, and in all fairness, I’m not dead.
I was badly triggered by my CPN’s comments. What mostly triggered me was her saying that I had “escaped” an institution. I hadn’t. I had been kicked out.
Later last week, my support coordinator talked to my CPN about her feeling that we should at least try to get the CCE involved based on my full story. We worked on the application this afternoon, but didn’t finish it yet, as I was getting overwhelmed.
As for finding me a new place for day activities, we currently have two organizations we’re still in contact with. Both are organizations serving primarily intellectually disabled people. Neither has offered me an orientation meeting yet, but at least neither has rejected me yet. Two other organizations did reject me and several others, we are still thinking on contacting but are most likely unsuitable.