Several weeks ago, I wrote a post about the five most significant events in my first 25 years of life. This post was inspired by a prompt I’d found on Paperblanks, an app on my iPhone. Today, I’m sharing another post inspired by a prompt from there. The prompt asks me to write out 25 goals for the next 25 years of my life. Here goes.
1. Find suitable day activities. This is a relatively short-term goal, as, despite the fact that I’ve been doing pretty well, the staff haven’t made up their minds about me needing to leave my current place. I hope though that, if I can find a place that will accept me, I will be allowed ot stay there for several years at least.
2. Write my autobiography. I’d really like to someday write a memoir about my life. Originally, I intended to title it some variation of “Some former preemies will later go to university”. This is derived from a newspaper article in 2004 about active treatment for 24-weekers, which was controversial at the time (and still is here). That title doesn’t speak to me as much now. After all, I never completed university and the majority of my adult life would even so far not be covered if I focused on this.
3. Buy a house. This requires help from my husband. After all, alone, I will never be able to buy a house with my income. However, divorcing my husband won’t be on this list of goals, so I assume we’ll someday make this work.
4. Get a guide dog. I really hope to get a guide dog someday, as that’ll help me be more independent.
5. Travel to the United States. When I was around sixteen, I dreamt of going to the United States in my third year of college. I never got that far, but still, I’d love to see the U.S. someday.
6. Visit Ireland. My husband traveled to Ireland with his Dad when we’d been dating only for a short while. I’d love to see the country, eat at the high-quality vegan restaurant in Dublin my husband ate at and meet my friend carol anne, who lives in Ireland.
7. Stay at an all-inclusive resort. It doesn’t have to be at some tropical destination or suchlike. Basically, all I’d want is to be able to swim as much as I want and eat as much as I want. We considered going all-in in Germany this year, which would be good eough.
8. Visit Sweden and Norway. I am somehow drawn to these nordic countries. I don’t even know why.
9. Take some more distance learning college classes. I’d really love to pick up psychology again at Open University. I’d also love to study special education/pedagogy and/or social work, but unfortunately the OU doesn’t offer classes in that. Maybe I’ll take those at a for-profit distance learning college.
10. Take some in-person college classes. This is likely to take some years. After all, if you’re under 50, you cannot enroll in specific college classes at university campuses unless you already have a college degree.
11. Get to and keep at a healthy weight. This is again a shorter-tem goal, as I’ve resolved to be at a healthy BMI by 2020.
12. Explore alternative medicine. Maybe I’ll take some courses in that too, although I think I’m fine just reading up about it in books and online.
13. Graduate from treatment at my mental health team. This too is a shorter-term goal, as I have no intention of staying in mental health treatment for 25 years. This requires finishing dialectical behavior therapy and maybe some more therapies.
14. Find out how to best cope with my symptoms of sensory and cognitive overload. I really hope I can get that sensory integration assessment mentioned last week and find some tools to better cope with sensory issues.
15. Do some volunteering. I’d really love to someday have a volunteer job in for example social services.
16. Make some friends. I have no friends now other than my husband. This scares me sometimes and besides, it’s just lonely. I’d really love to develop some friendships that’ll last into my fifties and hopefully beyond.
17. Find a creative outlet that I can pursue by myself or find the right help for. I’m still currently interested in soap making, but who knows what else I’ll find?
18. Stay as healthy as can be. I really hope that by the time I’m 56, my health won’t have declined significantly yet.
19. Get more active. I really hope that, if we buy a house, my husband and I will move to a city or town where I can go about running errands by myself even without a guide dog.
20. Learn to cook independently again. I’d just so love to be able to cook a meal by myself.
21. Join a gym, yoga studio or other out-of-the-house exercise place. This may be a good way of making friends too.
22. Learn basic gardening. If we buy a house it’ll be sure to have a garden again. I love sitting in our current garden, but would also love to learn to work in it.
23. Keep up with technological advancements. By the time I’m 56, I hope I’m still not terribly behind on technology. Like, my parents at 69 and 63 just got their first smartphones, but they’re really awkward with them. I’m finding that I already lag behind in some respects, so I hope the gap doesn’t become unsurmountable.
24. Get to a point where I can genuinely say life is worth it. I don’t have to be over the moon happy, but I’d really love to overcome my depression.
25. Still be alive. Do I need to explain?