Welcome to day 26 in the #Write31Days challenge on mental health. Today, my husband and I accepted the house to the right side of Arnhem we were offered on Thursday. I am therefore cheating a bit with the 30-day mental illness awareness challenge and choosing the question from day 29. Actually, it isn’t cheating at all since I never followed the challenge to a T. Anyway, for day 29, the question is about some of your goals with regard to your mental health.
My main goal that I’ve been working on for the past nine months now is to eventually be able to move in with my husband. Since we’re moving to the right side of Arnhem in probably less than a month, you may think there’ll be a bit of a delay in finding me care, but things never went that fast anyway. I hadn’t had an intake interview with supported housing on this side yet. Neither had a definite decision about allocated care hours been made. Remember, we’ve been working on this goal for nine months. Things go that slowly.
One factor in this slow-going process was the fact that my treatment team and I were waiting for the consultation with the autism center we didn’t have till the middle of May. Looking back, there’s not a single thing this center has been helpful with. Another factor, however, was the fact that my husband and I had been planning on moving for months. Even though my psychologist said she’d make arrangements as if we weren’t going to move, I at least have a bit of hope (or illusion) that now that the elephant is out of the room, we can actually start making arrangements for my care.
Apart from preparing for living with my husband, I don’t have any real goals for my mental health treatment right now. However, living with my husband requires a greater level of emotional self-control than living in an institution with 24-hour care. My husband works irregular hours and may be working long days. I won’t have support available when I need it right then during my husband’s work hours. If a support worker will be able to come out to the tiny village on call at all, it’ll take at least fifteen minutes if they can leave right away. Fortunately, I am relatively good now at spending time without care if I know at what times I’ll be abe to enlist a support worker or my husband will be home. I still need to work on improving this ability, because my husband cannot always tell when he’ll be home.
When I do live with my husband, additional goals for my mental health will have to do with other aspects of emotion regulation. I want to finally learn to kick the binge eating beast, for example. There are undoubteldy other negative coping skills I need to learn to replace, but I can’t think of them right now. In short, I hope to eventually be able to participate in day activities and live with my husband without too much emotional turmoil or behavioral outbursts.