Wayne Dyer, a well-known self-help guru, passed away last Saturday. I first heard about his work in like 2003, when the Dutch translation of one of his books was published. I can’t be sure what year it was or what the book was called, as I can’t find it on GoodReads.
Several years later, when I was interested in the Unity movement, I found out Dyer was a supporter. Unity is an offshoot from Christianity that sees Heaven and Hell as metaphysical states of being and encourages people to be Christ-like in order to enter Heaven. Heaven is seen as similar to the Buddhist Nirvana. I was only briefly into Unity, as I soon lost interest in religion. I sitll support some of Unity’s beliefs, but prefer to associate more with mainline Christianity.
Never having read any of Dyer’s books, I cannot be sure I agree with his views, but I like to use quotes as starting points for my thinking and writing. In this post, I will share a couple quotes atributed to Dyner, plus some of my own thoughts.
1. “How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.” Thos one reflects Dyer’s involvement with the Unity movement, as it refers to karma. I don’t believe in karma in the Buddhist sense of the word. Like, if you endure tragedy, it’s sometimes thought to be because of mishaps in your past life. I won’t swallow that. I do, however, agree that the way people treat others says more about them than about the people they treat badly, and that it is best to respond to hostility with kindness. That will reflect back on you, making you the wiser in the interaction.
2. “Friends are God’s way of apologizing for your family.” LOL. I just found this one funny, but it also resonates with me. You choose your friends, after all, not your family.
3. “With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.” This one is very true. We don’t get to choose some of our life experiences, but we do get to choose how we handle them. It may sometimes seem like I choose to feel sorry for myself when I write about my life experiences. Writing, however, is my way of transforming these experiences into an opportunity for growth.
4. “You are not stuck where you are unless you decide to be.” Though change is inevitable in life, this quote shows all the more that standing still means going backwards. Also, it shows us that we can decide to move forward, even if it is with tiny steps, every single day. I need to practise what I preach here, as I have not been reaching my goals for a few months, and didn’t even set any for August.
5. “When the choice is to be right or to be kind, always make the choice that brings peace.” I tend to be quite an argumentative person when it comes to getting my point across. Sometimes this helps, but sometimes, I need to remember what my father at one point told me: “I don’t need to be told I’m right to know I’m right.”
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