While looking at link-ups recommended by the women of the SITS Girls Facebook group, I came across the Pour your Heart Out linky by Shell from Things I Can’t Say. Shell has a great blog. Last week, she wrote a post for the linky entitled Do Your “It”. The message in her post was clear: follow your dreams. Don’t let yourself be held back by people who say that you can’t.
I immediately thought about my post about crafting. I have often been told that I shouldn’t try my hand at crafting, but I did, and, though I’m not particulalry successful, I enjoy it.
On the other hand, I’ve also often been told what I can do. People have told me that I can go to university and become a successful scientist if I stick to the right field. Yet I don’t want to become a scientist. I want to write and craft.
I have been overburdened at least as much as I’ve been underestimated. This is equally discouraging. When you fail time and time again despite being told that you “can”, you feel like a failure. At least I did. It often makes me eager to listen to the people who say that I “can’t”. At least I don’t disappoint them if I don’t try. Yet I disappoint myself.
One of Shell’s commandments is to follow your heart. I do this, or at least I try. I still have dreams that I feel kept from following because of the people who say that I can’t. Following a writing course, for example. I still have dreams that I do not follow because I’ve been pushed too hard in the past and failed, and now I believe I can’t. Finishing my intro to psychology course, for example. Yet this is not as strong a dream as it is an expectation. Really, I’m not too sure what following my heart entails, given all the “cans” and “can’ts” from the outside.