Gender and Autism Stereotypes: Problems for Autistic Girls

Yesterday, I bought Parenting Girls on the Autism Spectrum by Eileen Riley-Hall. I’ve only read bits and pieces of it yet, but what struck a chord with me are the problems faced by both passive and aggressive autistic girls due to gender stereotypes and stereotypes about what autism should be.

First, most girls on the autism spectrum are passive. This can easily lead to them being ignored in a classroom or even at home. I notice this on my ward, too, because I’m fairly withdrawn. Because of this, my needs are not always met, as there are many patients who act out to get what they need. In the book, Riley-Hall talks about a girl in her daughter’s nursery who was so shy that she could easily be isolated if not for her attentive teacher. Passive autistic girls, according to Riley-Hall, need as much one-on-one attention as possible. This seems coutnerintuitive, because they aren’t causing any trouble or being a danger to themselves or others. Then again, they too need to learn to relate to others. It is sad in this respect that isolation is no longer a ground for care in the Netherlands. Apparently, you need to be aggressive to be seen. Please note that, in DSM-IV, passive autism is seen as more severe than the active-but-odd type.

Yet aggressive autistic girls are also often mistreated. According to Riley-Hall, gender stereotypes dictate that less aggression should be expected and tolerated from girls than from boys. Consequently, if an autistic girl acts out, she’s punished more harshly than a boy. Riley-Hall does not say this, but it is my expereince that aggression in women and girls is also interpreted differently than in males. For example, many more women are diagnosed with borderline personality disorder rather than for example ADHD. Fortunately, researchers and clinicians are becoming more and more aware of gender differences in the symptoms of psychiatric and neurodevelopmental disorders.


21 thoughts on “Gender and Autism Stereotypes: Problems for Autistic Girls

  1. Reblogged this on Radically Mad and commented:
    Since more boys than girls are diagnosed with autism, female autistic individuals face a lot of stereotypes about what autism “should” look like, based on what it tends to look like in the male autistic population. This is also true for gender-nonconforming autistic males and non-binary and trans* autistic individuals. I am glad that Blogging Astrid wrote a post about this important subject.


  2. This was really interesting. My son has autism and I’m starting to realise that I think my struggles I’ve had all the way through my life are down to something more than just feeling like a misfit. The more I read, the more I’m sure I have Aspergers.


  3. Very interesting read. My son has Aspergers in a fairly typical presentation, and you have reminded me that it could be harder still if you sit outside the ‘normal’ expectations of the spectrum.


  4. I love it when you find a book that really helps you understand why you are who you are, and how to interact with the world better. For me the book which struck the biggest chord recently was Quiet by Susan Cain, which is all about being an introvert in a world that favours extrovert – such a great read.


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